Thank you for coming. I appreciate you being here, and it warms my heart that you care enough to keep reading for whatever reason this may strike your fancy. I would like to warn you that you may not like what you read here. You may disagree, and that's okay. You may decide that you don't want to hire me, or be my fan anymore, and that's okay too, although I would have to disagree with your decision.
I am a person. I have thoughts. I am not especially private, in fact I tend to be just the opposite. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, and it doesn't always feel like the best idea.
While I conduct myself professionally, and almost exclusively non-politically on stage or working in general, when I'm online or off-duty, as it were, I ask questions that can sometimes ruffle feathers. This is a choice I make not for the purpose of ruffling feathers, but to attempt to impart a positive change in the world.
Music is what I do, and in many cases, I do it well. Many people enjoy my performances, and I love it when they do. But I don't think that it's the only reason I was put in this world.
There are other things I do. I am a creative person by nature, I make things of kinds, be it food or paintings, poems and songs, articles of clothing and other accessories, I create. I also like to create positive change. This is also something I do. But sometimes a thought I think is a positive one causes someone to be offended. That is what I would like to address today.
I have opinions on some sensitive topics, ones that people don't usually discuss, sometimes because they are considered taboo, or not appropriate in general. Some of those opinions are considered controversial, or even radical, by society at large.
I have rules in the ways I converse on these subjects. I never insult people personally, or bring their character into question. I don't laugh at people for having different opinions than I do, but rather ask questions to help us both understand each other's perspectives as best we can. Regardless of how I approach certain topics, some people just read what I say and decide to disassociate by that alone, which allows me no recourse in trying to regain their friendship.
I have carefully considered the problem, and made a decision accordingly; I will not change my opinions for the comfort of political or philosophical leanings of people who may forward my career.
The prospect of an ally, when overshadowed by the obvious negatives I see in the relationship makes them no longer relevant to me. I have chosen to make difficult decisions regarding my integrity on this note. Changing my image and choosing to not approach these topics would be better in the long run, especially on a macro scale. Music is a dog eat dog business. If I change my opinion in a few years, but it's on record online that I felt another way in the past, it could come back to bite me in the ass. Many people encourage me to take this route, but I respectfully continue to say no. I am who I am, and if I don't like it, I will change. If people disagree with my thoughts, and choose to disassociate, that's a risk I'm consciously taking, whether they be fan, client, or friend.
If someone really appreciates what I do, they will see through any disagreements of a philosophical nature and support me anyway. I've actually seen this happen once already, overtly. Sometimes I make verbal missteps and I end up offending someone on accident. While in a perfect world, I would be able to have a conversation with the person in question, the reality is that sometimes people do not appreciate feeling offended, to the point that they choose to disassociate with me.
Part of my own defined purpose in life is making people comfortable in being uncomfortable. Discomfort is one of the biggest reasons that people are against change. I hope to continue challenging that, because to me, offense is really just someone's way of saying you made them uncomfortable.